I spent a lot of my first year with my daughter explaining to her that no, she was never going to have a dad.
“But why do you kiss Claudia like that and not me?” she would ask.
“I kiss Claudia like I would kiss a dad if you had one,” I would say.
“But why can’t I [...]
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Blended Families
Mother worries…
Tell me, other mothers out there, are you sometimes paralyzed with worry about your children?
Such anxiety is a fairly new thing for me. Years ago when the little one had been with me about a year, I had a dream that I lost her. Since I woke up panicked, and not wishing I was back [...]
The Band-Aid Crisis
I visited with my daughter-to-be for six weeks before she moved in with me. It was supposed to be a time for her to begin getting used to the idea of moving to a new family. I’m actually fairly sure there was no preparing her for the huge change that was to come. I, on [...]
New adoptive parent? When feeling out of control, focus on food.
Any of you out there adopt older children who you struggled to get to eat anything that didn’t come handed out a drive-through window in a greasy bag?
I had a multitude of challenges when my daughter finally moved in with me—her anger at leaving her beloved foster parents powering most of them—but the fact that [...]
The Beginnings….
Have you ever heard of an “accidental adoption”?
Okay, you’re probably thinking there’s no such thing.
After all, in order to adopt you must do a variety of things that you can hardly do without meaning to. Things like showing caseworkers your home. Leaving your fingerprints at the local police station for posterity. Clearing out the bedroom [...]